MENTAL HEALTH TIP – Ask a Question to Destroy Your Enemies

ABOUT THIS VIDEO: I have said this in the description of another video, but it bears repeating. All of these tips are Band-Aids on a wound that requires surgery. However, my hope is that they will help stop the “blood loss” until you can address those deeper issues.

What does the title of this video mean? I’d be happy to explain.

Many times when you are faced with someone who is being “critical” of you, you might notice two things: (1) their “criticisms” are really just insults, and (2) their comments are generalized. A prime example of this would be the eternally juvenile, “You suck!”

Sometimes they might be a little more targeted. In my case, someone might say, “You are a bad father.” End of sentence. Full stop. Period.

Personally, I know myself well enough and have good enough self-esteem to reject such a statement outright. I know I’m not a perfect dad, but I also know I always do my best, and if my best won’t do, then I see what I can do to do BETTER.

The flip side of this criticism is if someone says, “You’re not ‘Father of the Year,’ so stop acting like it.” This is meant to imply I’m arrogant enough to sing praises of myself, even if all I did is something that a father is SUPPOSED to do anyway. (Think of Chris Rock’s “I take care o’ my kids” bit.)

However, once again this critic is defeated because I know the LAST adjective anyone should use to describe me is “arrogant.” I don’t act like “Father of the Year.” Even if I won such an award, I STILL wouldn’t act like that. Therefore, I dismiss their comment.

But let’s say I couldn’t. Let’s say they utter those words, and they really start to burrow into me, making a beeline for the center of my soul. No matter how hard I try, I can’t just dismiss their comment.

If I can’t stop the initial comment from bugging me, there is at least a way where I can stop it in its tracks: I can ask a question.

Why is this such an effective method? Because usually the person who threw the “criticism” at you was just grasping at straws, putting any negative comment out there they could think of in an effort to hurt you. That kind of random flailing for insults usually results in one thing: the insult they choose is baseless and unreal.

Asking a question exposes the baseless nature of their insult. It lets them know that YOU are aware their insult means nothing. There is no evidence behind it. It’s nonsense.

How would the question asking work in practice? Well, let’s go back to the person who says I am a bad father. All I have to do is ask a one-word, monosyllabic question: “How?” And guess what? They change the subject.

In the case of the “Father of the Year” comment, I’d have to say something a little more in depth like, “How do I act like ‘Father of the Year?’ Examples, please.” Again, the response will be SILENCE.

It’s amazing, isn’t it? Someone could go on a tirade for five minutes, belittling you and insulting you and pointing out every flaw you have…and all you have to do to make their effort a complete waste of time is say, “How?”

Granted, you might ask that question, and then the person has an answer! However, there are ways to deal with that too, but that is for another video.

For now, watch and enjoy step #1 of this process.

~~~Steve Grogan

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How to Create a Non-Time-Consuming Food Journal (Video #2) – Naming Your File

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GRAB THE STEP-BY-STEP PDF THAT WALKS YOU THROUGH THIS ENTIRE VIDEO SERIES:

http://www.geekwingchuninc.com/suppor…

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Grab Open Office if you don’t have and/or can’t afford Microsoft Excel:

https://www.openoffice.org/download/

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Download my December 2020 journal to use as a guide while creating your own:

https://geekwingchuninc.wordpress.com…​

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In one of these videos, I mention getting a food scale so you can be sure how many ounces of food you are eating. Here is a model from Amazon that I recommend.

***PLEASE NOTE: This is an affiliate link, so I WILL get a commission if you buy this product. However, I recommend only those products in which I believe and would (or do) use myself.***

https://amzn.to/3iVypy0

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ABOUT THIS VIDEO: I believe a lot of people give up on eating right because tracking their food intake becomes too cumbersome. After all, people will tell you to track calories, protein, carbs, fat, sodium, and so on and so forth and blah blah blah.

I’m here to say: it doesn’t need to be that complicated. In fact, you wouldn’t believe how simple it can be.

Then again, you WILL by the time this series is done.

~~~Steve Grogan

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How Much Knowledge Do They Have to Criticize That? (MENTAL HEALTH TIP)

ABOUT THIS VIDEO: In an ideal world, where everyone had good self-esteem, criticisms and insults wouldn’t even phase us. They’d be forgotten as soon as the critic finished saying them.

Unfortunately, we do NOT live in an ideal world. There are a lot of people out there who take what the critics say to heart. They are allowing others to control how they feel about themselves or things they love, and that is sad.

Well, having been someone who once acted that way, I’m here to help you gain some control back.

Keep in mind this tip is like a bandaid on a wound that actually needs surgery. However, it will hopefully prove useful enough to stop the “blood loss” until you can address those deeper issues.

Basically, if someone criticizes you, and you are unable to just let it roll off your back, then you can minimize the damage they do to you by asking yourself: “Do they even have enough knowledge to make that criticism?”

For example, I was in a discussion about martial arts, where I was telling someone how I had gone from one Wing Chun instructor to another because of an issue I’d had. Then I had something come up with the SECOND teacher (not really an issue per se; it was more of a case where he said something I didn’t understand).

Well, someone on the board said, “Either you have the worst luck when it comes to picking instructors, or you are just a bad apple.”

At first this bothered me, but then I thought, “Wait a minute…how could he possibly have enough information to even make that call? All he knows is what I have shared on this board, and that is NOT very much.”

Another example is related to Wing Chun. A guy made a video where he claimed that Wing Chun has no ground defense, and then he said, “If someone says their Sifu taught them a way to defend against the leg takedown, then they’re not doing pure Wing Chun.”

I asked myself, “How much knowledge does he have to say that? Does he think watching a couple videos from Master Wong provides enough evidence for that?”

These are just two examples of the topic at hand. For more information, check out the video!

~~~Steve Grogan

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#1 – How to Create a Non-Time-Consuming Food Journal – Introduction

In this video, I describe the purpose of the playlist you are about to watch, as well as what you can expect.

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GRAB THE STEP-BY-STEP PDF THAT WALKS YOU THROUGH THIS ENTIRE VIDEO SERIES HERE: http://www.geekwingchuninc.com/suppor…

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Grab Open Office if you don’t have and/or can’t afford Microsoft Excel: https://www.openoffice.org/download/

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Download my completed December 2020 food journal. Use it as a guide while creating your own: https://geekwingchuninc.wordpress.com…

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In one of these videos, I mention getting a food scale so you can be sure how many ounces of any given food you are eating. Here is a food scale model from Amazon that I recommend. ***PLEASE NOTE: This is an affiliate link, so I WILL get a commission if you buy this product. However, I recommend only those products in which I believe and would (or do) use myself.*** https://amzn.to/3iVypy0

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ABOUT THIS VIDEO: I believe a lot of people give up on eating right because tracking their food intake becomes too cumbersome. After all, people will tell you to track calories, protein, carbs, fat, sodium, and so on and so forth and blah blah blah.

I’m here to say: it doesn’t need to be that complicated. In fact, you wouldn’t believe how simple it can be.

Then again, you WILL by the time this series is done.

~~~Steve Grogan

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Martial Arts School Do NOT Convert Your Children to a New Religion

ABOUT THIS VIDEO: Many people are afraid that, since martial arts mostly originated in the East (China, Japan, etc.) where they have religions other than Christianity, that their child will be learning about those religions instead of just how to defend themselves .

This is a silly fear. In this video, I explain why.

~~~ Steve Grogan

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Wing Chun Wooden Dummy Limb Analysis

ABOUT THIS VIDEO: Why are the dummy’s limbs so short? What are the odds you will fight someone whose arms and legs are that exact length?

To ask that question is to miss the point of practicing on the wooden dummy.

And what IS the point, you say?

I am so glad you asked because, as it turns out, I made a video about it.

~~~Steve Grogan

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FIGHTIN’ WORDS #41 – “Sparring Isn’t Fighting”

ABOUT THIS VIDEO: I notice that there are a lot of things martial artists used to do that were considered tests of their skill that are no longer thought of as such anymore.

One of the old testing methods was sparring. However, lately there has been a rise in popularity of the phrase, “Sparring isn’t fighting.” What they mean by this is that doing good in sparring does not mean you will fight good on the street.

Sparring is THE closest thing a martial arts student can legally get to a fight before it BECOMES a fight, which of course we can not do because there are these little things called LAWS, and it would not be advisable to break them.

So what do these naysayers suggest we do? How would they have us prove our skill? Go out and get in real fights? That would be illegal and unethical, I’d say.

As imperfect as it may be, sparring does serve a purpose, and a damn good one at that. In this video, I tear apart this silly saying with just the slightest application of analysis and logic.

~~~ Steve Grogan

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Geek Wing Chun – Another Reason Wing Chun Doesn’t Currently Work in MMA

ABOUT THIS VIDEO: It sucks that this wound up being just a talking head video, but sometimes you have to do what you can to get your message out there. 

In a video I saw from Sifu Jason Korol of Greenville Academy of Martial Arts, he used the Vietnam War to lead into his theory behind Wing Chun’s failure in MMA. 

America technically had the better firepower, and yet we lost the war. Why? Because the Vietnamese used a tactic called guerilla warfare. They went in, hit hard, and then got out. In Sifu Jason’s analogy, Wing Chun is the guerilla warfare of martial arts. 

I tend to agree, and I wanted to share WHY I agree here. True, you could just watch Sifu’s video, but unless you already stumbled upon it, you would not have. Why not share the same opinion here and give it another avenue of exposure? 

FYI: Sifu Jason has many wonderful videos. He is an intelligent man, and he entertains without having to be an over-the-top, exaggerated character. Check him out here: 

https: //www.youtube.com/user/JKDandWi … 

~~~ Steve Grogan

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WING CHUN TRAINING TIP – 3 Phases of the Single Leg Takedown

ABOUT THIS VIDEO: There are 3 phases to a single-leg takedown.

1) They start to lunge for your leg but haven’t reached you yet.

2) They have a grip but have not upset your balance.

3) They’ve got you on one leg.

There are ways to handle each one of these, and I describe them in this video.

~~~Steve Grogan

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WING CHUN MISCONCEPTION: “Wing Chun is All Straight Lines”

ABOUT THIS VIDEO: While it is true that Wing Chun FAVORS straight line attacks, it does not mean that is all there is to the system.

~~~Steve Grogan

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